There’s something quite uncomfortable about premature ejaculation isn’t there? Girls don’t want to talk about it because it might upset the guys. Guys don’t want to talk about it because it might upset the penis. At the end of it all, the experience that both parties had with their first time sex wasn’t a great one and we would imagine that neither partner were particularly satisfied with the experience.

Yes, It’s Common for First Time Sex

The thing about premature ejaculation is that it is a pretty common thing for first time sex. It doesn’t matter whether you are losing your virginity or just sleeping with a new person for the first time; sex can be unnerving and these mishaps can happen. And very often do.

Of course, the girls need to see things from his point of view. He has never put his hands on you before – it’s first time sex. He doesn’t know what you like or don’t like. He doesn’t know what turns you on or off. He doesn’t know how to kiss you or caress you… It’s very unnerving for him. You know how scared you are? He’s probably more scared than you right now.

Feeling the Pressure?

Of course, he is going to be feeling under pressure and when guys feel under pressure when it comes to sex, things don’t work properly. He might climax too soon or fail to come to climax at all. He might blow his load in an inappropriate place or accidentally inside you without a rubber…. These are all things that happen during first time sex and unfortunately, it’s something that you are going to need to expect.

Where did it go?

If he goes soft or comes to climax too soon, don’t make a massive deal about it. The more you focus on it, the worse it will be for both of you. He won’t be able to get it together enough to actually have proper sex with you and you will walk out of the experience feeling quite frankly, pretty deflated.

It Happens to a Lot of Guys Having Sex for the First Time

It happens to a lot of guys – this is something that you need to remember. If he climaxes too quickly, just let him focus on you for a little while… once you have cleaned up, of course. If he has gone soft, you can get him to focus on you, again, or you could relax and chill out for five minutes. You could take this time to have a drink and a cuddle, maybe going back to the smooching. It doesn’t have to be the end of the world and it will only suck if you make it suck.

The thing that you need to remember is that your bodies aren’t machines. They aren’t going to do what you want them to do because life is a bitch like that. Your body will react in ways that you wouldn’t have thought possible and this is both a good thing and a bad thing.

At the end of it all, take a breath and chill the hell out. It’s just sex at the end of the day. It’s meant to be fun. So go ahead and have fun with it.

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