Now that you’re up to speed on dildos, vibrators and anal play it’s time to get properly acquainted with fetish gear, which can play a big role in exciting bedroom shenanigans. Here’s our guide to picking up the right items for you.

Some definitions

Firstly, although fetish play often refers to bondage and sensory deprivation, it’s important to note that fetishes can come in all shapes and sizes. From fairly mainstream ones like foot fetishes and hand fetishes to the slightly more unusual stuff like breast expansion (1boobs getting bigger) all the way to fart fetishes and beyond, this is a broad church.

As we’re focusing on more entry level sex toys, we’ll mainly be talking about the more broad definitions, but be sure to talk to your partner about their sexual desires; there might be something big they’ve been keeping on the down-low that can really unlock exciting sexual adventures in the bedroom. Chances are, if it’s a bit weird, that they’ll be a bit uncomfortable talking about it, but if you really want to connect with them sexually, you need to make them feel comfortable talking about it.

Take your time and don’t force it, but it’s really worth it to find out what makes your partner tick, and what you can do to really turn them on – expect the same from them, too!

Sensory deprivation

Tied up with domination/submission play, sensory deprivation is the taking away of one sense to make the others more acute. Blindfolds are the most common of these. Buy yourself a nice, high quality one that’s not going to come off (1or get one free from your next flight), place it over your partner’s face, and start licking them all over. Surprise them – they won’t be able to see what’s going on, and the thrill of the unknown will be exciting; everything feels more intense when you don’t know it’s coming, and you can’t predict a sensation by seeing it coming.

Tie them up

Sensory deprivation is really exciting when combined with bondage. This can be anything from tying someone’s wrists together to binding them to a surface and putting a ball gag in their mouth to beyond. If you’re just moving into this area, try just using a scarf or a t-shirt to tie your partner’s wrists together while you fuck them.

But moving further onwards, items like handcuffs, clamps, restraints of all kinds, floggers and paddles can be brought into the action to ramp things up and used together. Buy some soft Velcro restraints to tie your partner to a chair, before spanking them with a paddle and then entering them from behind. Or perhaps tie them down with handcuffs on the bed and put your dick in their mouth.

The important thing with any fetish play is communication – as long as you’ve discussed everything beforehand, dirty bedroom play can be a delight. Just be sure to have laid everything out, and have a safe word in case either one of you gets carried away.

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